Ritual and Commitments for Couples

Rituals that we actually recognise and deliberately practice are few and far between for most of us these days. Why that's the case is a topic for a whole other blog post, but it's safe to say that mostly we don't understand rituals these days, particularly how rituals might really help with our day to day challenges. Try this: pick an issue of difficulty for you and your partner, and try to together come up with a list of things that you would both like to commit to doing about that issue. Keep it short and simple, three to four points works great.

Some examples might be:

We commit to expressing our love and affection for each other.
We commit to working with anger as constructively as possible.
We commit to trying to understand each other more.

Make one time each week to say your commitments together, as a ritual. It will feel strange at first, but try it for a month, then ask each other if it feels like it's worth continuing. I'm betting you'll say yes.