What If....

Most of us live in fear of the unthinkable. What if my partner cheats on me? What if people leave me, die, stop caring, change, don't change, judge me, etc? We spend a lot of energy pushing these possibilities away, but they still cause us anxiety anyway. A lot of therapy is about allowing ourselves to think the unthinkable, and to feel the pain, fear, or other emotions that are attached to it. Usually, to our surprise, once we've done this, and put it into words with another person, it feels better. Usually, thinking the unthinkable is actually easier than continually pushing it away. That's one of the reasons why therapy works.